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Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Sex addiction

Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.
--Billy Crystal

This quotation speaks for itself, but nowadays even women don't need a reason to have sex.

Sex addiction is term used to describe a person's intense sex drive or libido. A person which has this disorder denies having it and will continually have sex with most anyone even if it brings negative effects.

Some sex addicts progress into exhebitionist(going out in the open nude) making dirty phone calls or even molestation. But do take note that not all sex addicts become sex offender. like most addictions it can be cured.

BEHAVIORS OF A SEX ADDICT

uncontrollable urges to masturbate (self-stimulation)

Having many sex partners/Extra marital affairs

Consecutive "one night stands"

Consistent use of pornography

Unsafe sex

Phone or computer sex (Cybersex)

Prostitution or use of prostitutes

Exhebitionism

Stalking

Sexual Harrasment

Molestation/Rape

This might help you spot some sex addicts. Help them!!

No other addiction affects your most personal feelings as profoundly as sex addiction. Because of the intense conflicts that accompany it, sexual addiction is also the most complex addiction. When approached correctly, it can be overcome with simple, straightforward, common sense methods.



How to help your love one's


Just about anyone who acts sexually addictive has made some attempt to stop. It might have been only for a day, but they tried - and they failed. If you've tried to overcome sex addiction before and weren't able to, the biggest barrier to your success is believing you cannot succeed.

Let's imagine you wanted to teach a kid how to ride a bike. You've taught lots of kids and you're sure this kid can make it. He doesn't believe he can. He tried to learn before but was not taught correctly. Now he's sick and tired of failing. You know that the only thing holding him back is his belief that he can't do it.

Let's change the problem from learning to ride a bike to learning how to overcome sexual addiction. Remember that the kid felt hopeless because of his past mistakes. This same problem can become your biggest obstacle to success, if you let it. You are not doomed to failure. A good counselor can help you identify your past mistakes and help you correct them before they get in your way.

But what if you don't believe that you can correct your mistakes? Ask yourself this question: "What if my situation isn't hopeless? What if I really can overcome my addiction?"

Here's what it takes to overcome sexual addiction:

Free will
Knowledge
Hard work.

Good counseling will provide you the knowledge. Good counseling will also help motivate you to make the free will choice to stop. Providing the effort is up to you. Just like the kid who can learn to ride the bike if he makes the effort, you can overcome sexual addiction, once your efforts are properly guided.

The first obstacle to overcoming sex addiction is not in your genes, your childhood or your environment. The first obstacle is the decision not to try. If you're willing to make the effort, good counseling can guide you to success. The decision to make the effort and find the right guidance doesn't apply only to sexual addiction. It applies to accomplishing anything.


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